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Alexis's avatar

Meg. I feel you through your words in ways that land directly on the open waters of my own heart. Thank you for staying. Thank you for skipping. Thank you for being on this side where we channel our grief into portals of light so we can high five our loved ones who have passed through to the place we can’t yet see. May you continue to feel it all.

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Cecile's avatar

"But let me tell you something about me: I will never leave the theater.

To be devastated in the dark reminds me I’m alive in the light."

YES!

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Susan B's avatar

We would call your TSA experience "Braided Wind" - that impulse of Creation to connect us to the deep flow of Love through surprise, laced often with humor and paradox. With the respect you are offering your open heart, you'll be riding the rapids of Braided Wind everywhere. May it serve to soften some of the hard edges of Grief as you wander...

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Wendy's avatar

Meg, thank you — your writing is one of the best birthday gifts I received today. What could be better than tears & joy, sadness & laughter, all wrapped together in hugs with familiar strangers? (This substack right here is also a cathedral of strangers, where we all catch each other’s feelings in the most wonderful contagion, and in the gentlest yet strongest embraces.)

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megan falley's avatar

happy birthday, Wendy!

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Leslie Ann's avatar

Thank you for all that you're sharing, Meg — We are very grateful for you. I couldn't sleep last night and listened to Andrea's spoken word for about 3 hours, so I was happy to see this post today. Thank you, again, Meg, and much love & healing to you. 🩵

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denise petersen's avatar

one of the gifts Andrea has left behind is you, Meg. how lucky we are to have you, and your vulnerability and generosity. thank you for continuing. my twin and I can't wait for the movie. xo

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megan falley's avatar

thank you all for so graciously inheriting me.

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Alison Lindgren's avatar

Thank you for this! You have the same talent as Andrea: the ability to make me cry and laugh at the same time! So much gratitude for your vulnerable sharing of grief and joy....LIFE!!!

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Julia Rust's avatar

On storytelling: "to let us practice being human"?! That is SOLID GOLD. I'm going to be quoting you for a long time. Thank you so much for sharing this. And looking forward to seeing the documentary.

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Kelly Reuba's avatar

Yes, that line about storytelling made my heart skip a beat. Sooo good!! 💗

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Samantha Wallen (she/her)'s avatar

This is utterly gorgeous, Meg. Thank you for sharing, for staying in the theater, and for showing us what it looks like to live in the light and the dark. I can’t wait to see the film! And that TSA agent, what a miraculous moment of the communication between worlds. ✨💕

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Holly's avatar

Oh, Mega 💔💗💔💗 you and your Gibby have done an amazing job of putting your lives into words 👏 🙌 ✨️ and I am so thankful that you continue to share the love and joy 💖 ❤️ 💙 💜 💗

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Dee Elle's avatar

"It’s all going to end. That’s what makes it beautiful. Don’t skip the sadness. Don’t leave the theatre. Keep your eyes open. Keep your heart open. If it’s all going down anyway, listen for the violins."

Thank you for this. I needed it today. Your writing through grief and this time has been one of my main balms for inspiration. Not because I feed on your pain, but because I am in awe of your courage and ability to write in such circumstances. Andrea is definitely nodding at the difference you are clearly making for so many.

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Hazel Gangwani's avatar

Just checked 2 minutes ago whether just missed a post and look here it is.....thankyou Meg for keeping us going

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Writing the End of the World's avatar

I'm constantly stunned by your bravery and generosity. My dad died in 2020, and I can still barely talk about him. And I can only barely talk about him with very trusted people (which is almost no one...so I don't talk about him). Your ability to share some part of your grief with us is stunning. I'm going to see the film next week, and was wondering if you'd be there. Then I thought, "Nah, how could she see that in a public setting now?" Because I can't even watch videos of my dad on my phone when I'm alone. And here you are. Thank you for all of this. Our world needs more Meg and Andrea - feeling, grieving, vulnerable, telling the truth. AND for being honest about the magic of spirit! THAT is what this world really needs more of.

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Laurel R Singleton's avatar

The documentary is amazing. I saw it at the museum in Longmont, where we all laughed and cried simultaneously. And thank you for this line: "To be devastated in the dark reminds me I’m alive in the light."

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Donney Rose's avatar

Megan you’ve always been an exquisite writer but the writing you have shared since Andrea’s transition is a beautiful and painstaking gospel that not only illuminates your love for them but also teaches us, the readers, lessons in loving the ones we love with our whole selves. Continued healing to you and may the memories and light of Andrea continue to give you warmth on the days when the theaters feel coldest. Peace.

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Gloria Berlin's avatar

This is so beautiful! I remember watching the movie and I was much older and it slayed me, that every time I heard the music it sent me weeping. I am so looking forward to watching the movie of your most special love! Thank you for sharing! 💖

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